How to Read Your Cat’s Affection & Overstimulation Signals

To prevent nipping and build a stronger bond with your cat, it is essential to distinguish between a "yes" for affection and the subtle "no" of overstimulation.

Signs of Affection

When a cat is welcoming your interaction, saying "yes, more", their body language is fluid and open.

• The "Question Mark" Tail: A tail held high with a slight curl at the tip signals happiness and confidence.

• Slow Blinking: Known as "kitty kisses," slow, soft blinks.

• Physical Contact: Head bunting (rubbing their head against you), kneading ("making biscuits"), and purring.

• Relaxed Features: Ears are forward or neutral, whiskers are relaxed to the side, and pupils are narrow slits.

  
  

Warning Signs of Overstimulation

Overstimulation occurs when a cat’s sensory threshold is exceeded, often from petting in sensitive areas like the belly or base of the tail or over-petting. Watch for these signals to stop before a bite happens:

• Tail Movement: A quick, rhythmic flicking or thumping of the tail.

• Ear Positioning: "Airplane ears" ears that are flattened, turned sideways, or pinned back.

• Eye Dilation: Pupils that suddenly enlarge or are wide circles signal a shift into a high-arousal or defensive state.

• Skin Twitching: Subtle rippling or twitching of the skin, especially along the back, is an early sign of sensory overload.

• Body Tension: sudden freezing or stiffening.

Before interacting with a cat, especially one that isn't that familiar with you, be sure to perform the "Consent Test": Extend your hand and let the cat approach you first. If they rub against you, they are inviting touch.

While petting your cat, focus on the scent glands. Stick to petting the head, chin, and cheeks, where cats have scent glands and generally enjoy being petted most.

Take Micro-Breaks. Stop petting every few seconds to see if your cat asks for more or chooses to walk away.

Remember to never punish your cat. If your cat nips, do not yell or hit. Instead, calmly walk away to allow them to decompress.

For more about understanding cat overstimulation and body language, watch the video below: